I'm Getting Married!

A lot has happened since my last post.  On February 13th of 2015 I met my soulmate (definitely didn't know  it at the time).  I dated him for 3 months before deciding he wasn't the "one" for me, dated others for three months, then came to my senses and found out he became "the one."  No idea how it happened, but we started back dating in November and he proposed April 2nd (of course I accepted), now we're getting married November 26th.  I can't wait!

We chose a theme of Lord of The Rings, and colors of blue and white.  Since I have never looked good in white, I am wearing a blue dress, and J gets to dress up like Aragorn.  My father walks me down the aisle as Gandalf the White, and the groomsmen are all the fellowship, while my matron of honor and bridesmaid are dressing up as women from Lord of The Rings and The Hobbit.

I got incredibly luck to have such an awesome family, as my matron of honor is also making the wedding cupcakes (instead of a cake I'm having tiers of cupcakes with the tree of Gondor on the chocolate ones and the apple pie flavored ones have the crest from the hobbit cloaks).  My Mother is helping me increasingly, my brother is dressing up as Legolas, and my sister is my matron of honor.  My dad built the arbor we're getting married under, and everyone has been amazing.  My aunt is directing our wedding, and I have not figured out the officiant yet, but one of my mother's friends will play the flute as we go down the aisle.

I'm so lucky.

Song Of The Day

This song got me through a saturday working at Bojangles, it helped me time my motions and helped me not to think about the idiots I had to listen to over the drive-thru intercom.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cON1VmHX1jE

Song of The Day

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EUneC3h9yUA

Found this song on youtube the other day and so far have made a few deductions, I wish guys had more alcohol available to them or maybe just some balls.  The reason I go out with few white guys is because every other race just asks me out more.

Song of The Day

I've really been into nightcore lately, so I am just going to start putting up songs to inspire my happiness or feelings of empowerment once a day every day from now on.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoWK5WgafPU

An awesome song to listen to the nightcore version of Bruises and Bitemarks by Good With Grenades.

Hypocrites

What is the definition of a "slut"?

I looked it up on dictionary.com and this is what I got :

slut  (slʌt) 

— n
1. derogatory  a dirty slatternly woman.
2. derogatory  an immoral woman.
3. archaic  a female dog.

Then I looked at another definition from thefreedictionary.com, and this is what I got:

1.
a. A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.
b. A woman prostitute.

2. A slovenly woman; a slattern.

I was prompted to look this up after a conversation between some people at work that consisted of the words "the slutty girls are ruining the world for the rest of us."
This conversation was being had between a female mother who is not married and never has been, as well as a 21-year-old female that lives with her boyfriend and has a step-son through said boyfriend.  

As slut is synonymous with whore, one can assume that it has some similar connotations.  The definition of a whore during bible times was any woman who had sex outside of marriage, in high school it was any female who had sex with anyone at all, and now in college it seems to be any female that another female dislikes, it is just the go-to word when someone cannot think of any other insult to place upon a female.

People deemed me a slut in high school constantly, while I was actually a virgin all throughout high school, though admittedly my clothes showed off my body, I did not get sent home at any point in time for a dress code violation during high school.

In conclusion, it is smartest to not call anyone else a slut, as you will be deemed one yourself as well as have earned the titles "hypocrite," and "bitch".

Male currently watching me

I am currently observing this guy from my peripheral vision, he has been watching me at this library for at least ten minutes, he's not exactly being discrete about it now, well more like he thinks he's being discrete.  These guys can be such idiots at times, I am acting like I haven't noticed him because I am not interested in this particular guy, he keeps acting like he's staring at his laptop but it's painfully obvious he's been watching me, I think he noticed my earbuds and that's why he hasn't made a move yet, but there's also the fact that he has a drink, and is in a corner where he's less likely to be seen.  It's really interesting, a nice psychological observation.  I'm pretty sure he thinks I haven't seen him yet, he looks a little young.

I am hoping to see the 24 year old today in music appreciation, maybe he'll entertain me enough to stay awake, I am always so bored in MUS, counting the people falling asleep gets really old.  I have been listening to "Dirrty" by Christina Aguilera today, awesome to dance to.  Look in my next post for the top ten dirty songs playlist.

Signed Up for OkCupid.com

When I first looked at the list you could see why most of these people had resorted to a dating website, very few were in shape or good looking, but some of the nerds are interesting.  The conversation's better than omegel at the very least, and no pictures of someone's phallus with googly eyes, something I never want to see again.

Depressing Poems and Life SUCKS

I have been trying to write poems for my English 113 class, and have completely ended up with depressing poems, finally gave up trying to write something that was not going to land me in a guidance counselor's office.

I really hate the administrative people attached to colleges, they drive me insane, first they lead you in circles, then they mess up and refuse to allow you to fix their mistakes, it is insanely annoying.
This leading me to my new acronym:
S. - Supremely annoying work.
U. -Undeniably annoying people
C. - Costs coming out of nowhere.
K. -Killing all who approach.
S. - Sex lack.

So life SUCKS recently... 

McDonald's Did Not Work

They ended up telling me that they wanted to hire me but refused to pay me the $8.25 per hour I asked for and would have decreased me to $7.50 per hour.  Obviously  that is not working, also telling me she wanted an interview was a ruse as she only had me fill out paperwork when I got there without allowing me to discuss wage until the end, not something I am happy about.

Combined with the estimated $4700 I might have to spend on my car at max, minimum around $4000.00.  I have yet to call her and tell her I refuse to take the job as I asked her for some time to think about it.  I am really starting to wonder what I pissed off to make my semester suck so much, currently suffering from writer's block on my essay on the Declaration of Independence...  I wish there was a certain way of writing an essay that would work for every teacher, as mine is a PhD in English that pronounces "advertisement" incorrectly at every opportunity.  My math teacher is a snob, unlike the awesome math teacher I had last semester, and I am so seriously annoyed with the fact that life just sucks right now, and I am taking birth control for no reason as every time I am having issues finding an fwb.  Anyone's life suck less than mine recently?

Just Checking In

Hey, it is day 2 of my taking the birth control pill Lo Loestrin Fe.  Still having no effects from it yet, and wondering if I will actually lose my virginity before my two boxes of condoms expire.  I have seen some youtube videos on Lo Loestrin Fe as reviews but none of these seem that bad, except hoping that it will lighten my periods, not really having to worry about whether I am pregnant or not, seeing as my sex life does not exist outside of whatever fictional generalizations I make at times. I am trying to see if anything new will happen in my life and wondering when I will actually feel any sort of motivation to actually do something, granted I am blogging and that is better than nothing.  I am hoping to find some sort of interesting thing to do with my time to curb my addiction to doing anything that is not schoolwork.  Sometimes I wonder if I should just quit school altogether, but so far attempting to make it.  I do not want to do anything, but cannot miss any more days of Critical Thinking class, I have missed enough days and do not want to fail it a second time.  Still no news on my car, but it's kind of to be expected.
 I am starting a group project and am supposed to be contacting all of these people right now but not really interested at the moment, wondering how vlogging would work as I really need a new hobby, and sometimes I wonder if this blog reaches anyone, granted I know it has had 400 views total, but I have only ever seen one comment, so I'm kind of wondering if anyone can hear me.  I am thinking of a bucket list.  Will provide it in next post, but please just tell me if you actually read my blog, I am open to suggestions.

An Experiment

I am having the same issues I had in the first semester, I cannot find myself any motivation to actually do work.  I have no idea why this is happening, and I do not have any reason for this to be happening, yes work sucks, but other than that I can find no reason for my not feeling any need to actually do work for school.  It's not logical at all and I have been close to diagnosing myself with some sort of psychological calamity, as nothing else seems to be going wrong.  It's like when one thing goes right everything goes right but when one thing goes wrong everything goes wrong.

I was looking at the differences between this semester and last semester, for example last semester:

I worked 35 hours a week on average
I made almost straight A's
I had a 16 hour work load at school
I had more friend gatherings
I had not had work lying to me
I had an awesome math teacher
No anxiety attacks
Had one online class

This semester:

I work between 20-30 hours at most
I am not making an A in anything except Music Appreciation
Different math teacher
 3 anxiety attacks so far
I have dropped one online class
I had signed up for 2 online classes
Crashed my car a few days ago, but no injuries


The things that seem to be consistent is the amount of work I was doing as well as good emotions seemed to correlate with my good grades, I will need to dissect to figure out if a combination of both working harder and better emotions will cause my grades to increase.  Please stand by for results.

Hope Chest

Ever since I was younger, I have always wanted to be independent, that is all I have ever wanted to be, I did not really care how I did it.  This said, I was very attached to movies such as Kiki's Delivery Service and other journey away from home movies.  At the same time, I had also been interested in crochet, sewing, knitting, and other things that were traditional homemaking activities.  At 16, I started having way too many things that I needed a use for, and so developed the hope chest idea. I had heard about this from other older generations (mainly my parents) and decided it would be a good goal.  I had also at the same time started to develop the idea that I would move out when I turned 18.  So I ended up with this idea that I would start a hope chest of things to help me move out when I turn 18 so I have less money I have to spend. 

I am still working on this goal with only a few months left to finish everything I'll need.  I currently have 3 pairs of baby booties (just in case), multiple berets, potholders, I am halfway through an afghan, and I just started a baby blanket today.  I am planning on finishing everything, making a circular rug for the apartment, making a comforter( probably through sewing on a machine), and a pillow case.  I am trying to think of other things I'll need for an apartment.  Do you all have any ideas?  I will post links to the patterns used for everything.



Leia Rhyne

Slut Shaming and Feminism

One thing that has always been a pet peeve of mine is the double standard on sex: Guys are a stud for having tons of sex, while girls are whores/sluts for having sex once. 

The worst part of it, is that the females are the ones calling each other sluts and whores.  
The main reason for feminism is for females to have the same rights as males, yet females deny each other the possibility of having as much safe sex as they want, while males are perfectly okay to have the large amounts of safe sex with less consequences, even encouraged.

Another thing to consider is the fact that women have no straight definition for everyone on what being a slut or whore entails.  How many times must a female have sex?  In what time span? With how many guys?  With what relationship with the guys?

One last piece of food for thought; if this term originated for someone who has sex before marriage, then quite a large percentage of people would be considered sluts and whores as I have no knowledge of anyone I have ever met that was actually a virgin until marriage. Have any of you ever met anyone who was a virgin until marriage?

All of this together brings me to my conclusion that slut shaming should not occur.  There is no problem with a female being so amazing she's able to get many guys to sleep with her, as well as there being no problem with a male being so amazing he gets many females to sleep with him.  As long as no one is passing me any diseases and everyone uses condoms, all of this is fine, so those who have been considered "sluts"(nearly every female over the age of 12 has been considered one by someone at some point whether virgin or not), do not worry as when you are being called a slut, you are basically being welcomed into the general female population.  Congratulations.

                                                 Food for thought,


                                                 Leia Rhyne


P.S. I am not a feminist, I am an equalist.  I fight for rights of everyone to be equal whether white, black, hispanic, purple, green, female, gay, bisexual, transgender, lesbian, or any animals (though I do still eat them, they need to be treated humanely until then).

Regret

Sometimes I wonder what I'm doing with my life.  None of the things I'm doing are things I have pictured myself doing.  In the past, I did not ever picture myself being treated like an idiot for the rest of my life.  Now I do.  I am so tired of idiots acting like I am the idiot here just because my life does not revolve around theirs.  Why do idiots get the idea that just because they are older, they are supposedly wiser?  Why do people in power treat everyone around them as if they are not good enough to sniff their shoes?  Granted, not everyone in power treats others like this, but quite a bit of the time, this is exactly what happens.  I am so sick of this, mainly because I don't believe any of these people are even slightly worth more than me on a normal basis, the only thing that ever makes me believe this is the fact that I have such a hard time getting a stupid date. 

I am slightly sick of women needing men to help define their self-value, especially me being one of them, but there is not enough in my life to help me out with that, mainly because I made a few mistakes last semester, that I'm actually scared will haunt me for the rest of my life (gpa).  Have any of you made any mistakes you regret?

Extended Family and Frito

Lately I have been smothered by extended family, not much else has been going on except for more work.  New people keep coming into work and I found out the newest manager is officially the biggest neat freak I have ever seen.  He got mad at me for not wiping off the silver part that slopes into the trashcan hole.  I was annoyed because he made me stay after for 2 hours yesterday until the lobby got to be HIS definition of clean.  I ended up doing part of his job yesterday and being annoyed that he deemed my time to be much less important than his. Let's call him "Frito," mainly because I really want some Fritos right now and his voice reminds me of the Frito Bandito. Frito proceeded to tell me that the day before I had apparently left the lobby dirty, and said he would be checking behind me before I left.  The only way he could have made this insult worse was the fact that he was telling me this in a crowd.  I let it go, then proceeded to do as he asked, sweeping every square inch of the carpet, then came for him to check the lobby, waited for him to finish his conversation with a friend of his.  Frito looked right at me and ignored me as he kept on talking, I waited 2 more minutes before walking off to do something else, getting even more pissed.  I work my butt off then get treated as if I'm worthless?  I don't think so.  What are your thoughts on this, what would you have done, if not let it go?

Top 5 Reasons Women Wear Short Shorts

A male asked me the other day why women wear short shorts, and at first I thought he was just being stupid, but I googled it the other day, finding that many people wonder the same question.  So I figured, as a female, I might be one of the most qualified to answer this question.  There are  very many reasons, but here are my top 5.

1. Tons of Females Wear Them.  When one goes out to the beach or just out to a mall in the summer, most of the high school girls and college girls will be wearing short-shorts, so A. peers wearing them would be a reason, but this branches out to more that just one reason.  B. You may not know this, but having the ability to make a guy look one's way by wearing shorter shorts brings power.  Many females enjoy this power, even if the guys looking are ones a female would never want to get with, it is still a huge compliment.   C.  This reason goes back to B and A: Many females wear them, so to not wear them would be at a disadvantage.

2.  They Look Good.  when have you ever seen a female wearing short-shorts and not had your eyes check out her legs and arse?  Even if you are a straight female, you will check out the competition.

3. They Draw Attention Away From Other Features.  If a female has good legs and arse, she would much rather have someone look at those than stare at a zit on their face.

4.  It's Hot Outside.  This one is self-explanatory.

5.   They Show Less Than Wearing Leggings With Nothing Over Them.  Have you ever looked at someone wearing leggings and noticed all the cellulite shown through the fabric?  Or noticed how no matter what, the leggings will constantly attempt to ride up their butts?  Short shorts allowing for skin to be show is much better than being able to see the basically pants-less person wearing leggings in front of you.



Hope this helps,



Leia Rhyne

Comprehensive Sex Education

There is one issue in the USA that irritates me more than the economy or stupidity: the lack of good sex education available in schools.  I even wrote an argumentative essay about sex education in USA schools, that will be posted up here soon. Everywhere I find schools that the parents are refusing to let the teens get sex education, and also will not give the talk to their own teenagers(telling teens that they should never have sex does not count).  Teenagers should be given information, and given the ability to make decisions with the information they get, how else will they learn?  There are too many STDs out there for abstinence-only ideas to be depended on (when everyone knows that teenagers like to rebel).

Here's some more information on this from an essay excerpt:

As for the HIV costs, many people have no idea that it can cost up to 36.4 billion dollars per lifetime, including the treatment required and the efficiency costs through being unable to work at times.  Including Antiretroviral therapy (ART), the costs can increase hugely, considering the amount of money spent on normal treatment per year is $114,938.00 approximately, while those using ART can have costs of $230,044.00 per year (“36.4 Billion a Year”).  It is a known quote that “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure;” however it is worth much more when there is no cure for HIV, although it may be prevented through the use of contraception.  This can make one wonder why another would argue for abstinence-only teachings when these are the numbers, especially when the costs of children per year are weighed in.

Works Cited

"Birth Control Pills." Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood, 2013. Web. 20 Mar. 2013. 

"Cost of Raising a Child Calculator." Cost of Raising a Child Calculator. N.p., n.d. Web. 18

            Mar. 2013. 

 “Facts on American Teens’ Sexual and Reproductive Health.” Guttmacher Institute 2013. Web.

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Feiju, Ammie and Sue Alford. “Adolescent Sexual Health in Europe and the US.” Adolescent

            Sexual Health in Europe and the US. N.p., 2000. Web. 13 Mar. 2013. 

Llewellyn, Cheryl. "Abstinence Education." Sex and Society. Marshall Cavendish Digital, 2013.

            Web. 18 March 2013. 

Palmer, Kimberly. “The Real Cost of Birth Control.”  US News RSS. N.p., 5 Mar. 2012. Web.

13 Mar.2013.

"$36.4 billion a year: Cost of HIV/AIDS highlights racial and ethnic disparities." Medical News

            Today. MediLexicon, Intl., 26 Sep. 2006. Web.

Closer to The Dream

I am getting closer to the amount of money needed to attend UNCG for the first semester.  I am soon-to-be half-way there.  I am starting to think I should double major in French and English, but I also want to do something with Romanian, I want to go somewhere in Europe that is a little hole-in-the-wall, somewhere less touched by American Civilization.

I can't wait to finally branch out on my own, but also I have decided I don't like being home alone all the time, I might want to find some sort of roommate.  I need to find something out there that is just mine.  I want to be near a coffee house, or maybe just a good amount of different gourmet coffee creamers aligned in my fridge.  I decided I would like a room with glass as three of the walls, but a tall table in it with a table just big enough for a laptop and a cup of coffee.

Do any of you have dreams like that?  What are your dreams?

Inspiring Stories from The Fast-food Line

One of the things about working fast-food is that one has a lot of opportunities to reach out to people.  I usually do this by talking to them at the cash register, but sometimes the people come to me or I come to them.

Once, when I was on break, an old man (that looked like he might have ridden a motorcycle) wearing a bandanna came and asked if he could sit down in front of me.  I said "sure," thinking that I only had about 5 more minutes on break anyway, so what was the harm in giving an old man some company?

We started talking and I asked him what had made him want to have a gravy bistcuit today.  Nothing could have prepared me for his answer, which was that it was his favorite food before his chemo therapy started, and he was hoping it wouldn't come back up.  He explained to me that the doctors had given him an expiration date 2 months from then and he wanted to enjoy life a little before he died.  I was almost struck speechless, but I had two more minutes left on break, and said the only thing I could "Everyone has an expiration date, you just might have a vague idea of where yours is, for all I know, I could be hit by a truck tomorrow and you could outlive me."  He accepts this and my break is over, but I tell him I am sorry but I have to go back to work.  He bids me goodbye, and I'm haunted by this all day.

4 months later I see him at Bojangles again, I ask him "isn't it past your expiration date?"  He looks over at me and explains that his last tumor was benign, so no more expiration date.  I am overjoyed.

Someone Else's Easy Perfection

Yesterday I got to be Cashier fully in the morning, I was so happy I couldn't do anything other than grin all day, I laughed when the power went out at Bojangles for a full 30-40 minutes.

I did pretty well on cash register, making me wonder why I'm not on it more often.  I am starting to wonder how to find a way to do that all day instead of lobby all day.  I'm mainly just ready to have a job that's almost like a break.  I feel like the people at cash register have tons of breaks, while people on lobby definitely don't.   Today I did packing for cash register, and I mainly did very well in my main boss' eyes.

I met a new girl who made a Bojangles uniform look beautiful today.  I hated her instantly, mainly because she made freckles, blue eyes, and brown hair look better than I did.  She had no zits whatsoever, she had no hairs out of place, and she was nice.  Making it much worse.  Have you ever met someone like that?